1. You know you seduced her, and you know how. Don’t tell her this. It’s insecurity that makes you broadcast it to her.

2. There are very few people, men or women, who can with good humor admit that they were not in control of the situation. It makes people feel powerless and used. Which means that contrary to all evidence, they will refuse to accept that they were not in control.

2.5 This seems contradictory to the idea that you lower a girl’s ASD by relieving her of the responsibility. It’s not.

3. Women want the power in a situation; they do not want the responsibility. They want to believe, as they curl up smug and sated as kittens, that there is some special quality about them in particular (looks, usually) that caused you to desire them. They want to believe that the resulting seduction was because you were enraptured and enspelled by that quality. Ultimately, they can lay the responsibility for the actual sex on your persistence, but they need to feel that they controlled the trigger for the attraction.

At the end, leave her thinking she seduced you first.

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