I saw the opinion expressed on a mesage board to the effect that direct openers will not work on hot women. That’s complete and utter bullshit and I’m going to tell you why.
First, picking up girls is not about sticking to a script. Using canned material will never get you anywhere really interesting. Look at who the really good PUAs are; they are the guys the material is originating from. Originating. Original. See how that works? For guys whose style isn’t congruent with direct opening, it probably won’t work for them. That doesn’t mean it won’t work even on an SHB10 for a guy whose game it is congruent with and who can hold his frame. Picking up women is Legos, where you can put the pieces together in a way that makes what you want. It is not an Estes model where you are supposed to put the pieces together without variation and have yours just like everyone else’s.
You guys don’t care about that right? I know. On to the useful stuff.
The examples I see of direct openers out there focus on a physical compliment. This is going to work great on sixes and sevens. They know they are pretty, but they also know they aren’t the prettiest girls out there. They have physical insecurities and they are going to respond to the compliment on some level. Eights are borderline, this is where calibration will serve you well.
So how about direct opening nines and tens? It’s easy, guys. Base the compliment on something that isn’t physical. They are constantly bombarded with attention based purely on their physical appearance. They know they are hot. For the most part anyway. It’s really common for girls to have warped body image, but for the sake of this example, we’ll assume you are dealing with an HB10 who knows she looks good. Women that hot are rarely appreciated for their non-physical attributes.
So how can you compliment a total stranger on something non-physical? (First, stop being so shallow.) Observation. If your HB10 is in a store, compliment her on the material she is browsing, the CD or movie she is holding, the book she is flipping through, whatever. Do not forget, you need to keep frame, DHV, and you still need to make her qualify.
PUA:
Hey I see you’re holding Atlas Shrugged, that’s really deep! Hi, I’m…
(exchange names)
What else have you read?
Here you compliment her current choice, establish an introduction, and ask her to qualify with her other choices of reading material.
How do you do it when there isn’t a handy prop? Proximity. Grab a piece of conversation and open on that. (Don’t be obviously eavesdropping though; that’s creepy.)
PUA:
Hey I heard you talking about fluid dynamics, lubrication theory is so cool! Hi, I’m…
(exchange names)
What else do you do for fun?
Here you compliment her on smart conversation, introduce, and then make her qualify that she’s fun.
I’d love to see some field reports that involve direct opening SHBs, so if you’ve got ‘em, link ‘em in the comments.






August 24, 2007 at 7:07 am
I think you’re absolutely right. When I was in Belgium being a scruffy backpacker, I met a guy (Sam) that told me that goodlooking women love being complimented on something other than being goodlooking. Ironically enough, style or the way she dances are the two I think off the top of my head. Both are incredibly important to me, and frankly, I think staying physically focused is somewhat boring at times.
V, what do you think about direct openers w/ sarcastic twists? e.g. in the grocery store – Me: Wow, Kraft dinner, you’re obviously a gourmand (or excellent chef). I’m , have you tried their white cheddar flavour? (smile).
Also, how about after the bar game? Tonight I saw an 8 call a guy out and then started talking to me and my buddy while we were laughing. The group of guys were pointing at her and her friend (8.5, mostly body like her friend) and she just blurted “WHY ARE YOU POINTING AT HER? BECAUSE SHE’S OUT OF YOUR LEAGUE” It was only when I got home that I thought of a great direct opener (can’t believe I was that slow on the ball) “Wow, that was really clever/witty/funny, was that a one time deal or are you always this much of a riot?”
July 24, 2009 at 1:24 pm
i agree.. you gotta throw in some tease if the girl is higher than 8.. otherwise its just another guy trying for report through ass kissing.
i’d say something like “hey i like your shopping cart handling.. were you a race car driver in the past life?” (in the fantasy world where i actually open chicks in supermarkets :)