Who seduced who? Saturday, Aug 18 2007 

Observations v4nilla 1:13 pm

1. You know you seduced her, and you know how. Don’t tell her this. It’s insecurity that makes you broadcast it to her.

2. There are very few people, men or women, who can with good humor admit that they were not in control of the situation. It makes people feel powerless and used. Which means that contrary to all evidence, they will refuse to accept that they were not in control.

2.5 This seems contradictory to the idea that you lower a girl’s ASD by relieving her of the responsibility. It’s not.

3. Women want the power in a situation; they do not want the responsibility. They want to believe, as they curl up smug and sated as kittens, that there is some special quality about them in particular (looks, usually) that caused you to desire them. They want to believe that the resulting seduction was because you were enraptured and enspelled by that quality. Ultimately, they can lay the responsibility for the actual sex on your persistence, but they need to feel that they controlled the trigger for the attraction.

At the end, leave her thinking she seduced you first.

Tags: , , , ,

 

Glossary Friday, Aug 17 2007 

Uncategorized v4nilla 1:10 pm

I’ll update this as I use terms in posts that may need clarification. For a more extensive glossary, go here.

AFC: Average Frustrated Chump. Coined by Ross Jeffries, this refers to the “nice guys” that see interacting with women as an arcane and confusing ritual.

Neg: A “negative” remark directed toward a very attractive girl designed to show lack of interest in her appearance. Not an insult.

PUA: Pick-Up Artist

 

Obstacles and Attitude Friday, Aug 17 2007 

Observations v4nilla 12:52 pm

If you approach a set and all your signals when addressing the obstacle with the target convey the message that you are hostile to or have a low opinion of her, she’s going to be hostile to you. Instead, establish rapport with her the same way you would any other woman, no matter what you think of her. It doesn’t pay to alienate any women unnecessarily. They talk to their friends; the girls in your set may go to the bathroom together and by the time they come back, all that’s left is for the target to blow you out.

You get what you put into an interaction and if you are treating a girl, any girl, like she’s not good enough, it will show. I’m not talking about negs or being playful here, I’m talking about genuinely believing the girl in question is not up to snuff and treating her with contempt or disdain. If a chick is giving you the cold shoulder or looking at you like you crawled out from behind the toilet, check your attitude first. There’s a lot of talk about mirroring in PUA material in terms of establishing rapport, but it can work against you just as easily, both in terms of an obstacle picking up your hostility and you picking up hers.

That’s why you win over the obstacles.

If you can’t win them over, the best policy is to not be reactive to anything antagonistic that they say. Ignore them. To borrow from the immortal Billie Holiday: “If you can’t say anything real nice, it’s better not to talk at all, is my advice.”

Tags: , , , ,

 

Why’s a nice girl like you… Monday, Jul 24 2006 

Uncategorized v4nilla 5:24 am

doing a thing like this?

The short answer is that I’m a woman and things relating to attraction and relationships are “chick crack.” I can elaborate further on the answer, but basically my motivation is self-serving.

The seduction community isn’t just about getting laid. (OK , for some guys it is, but certainly not all.) It’s also about becoming a better person. It’s about more self confidence, better interactions with all people, working toward goals, becoming the person they want to be. Too many people stagnate and refuse to take risks, they refuse to face their inner demons and push themselves out of their comfort zone. I like people that are willing to take chances, to break out. If I can’t actually help, I can at least jump up and down on the sidelines, waving pom-poms.

I also have a long abiding casual interest in psychology, sociology, and the dynamics of relationships, dating back to when I took the principles from my Social Psychology class home and started applying them in my long term relationship. (Which failed, but not because of that.) The social influences that cause people to behave in a certain way fascinate me, puzzling out why people respond to the “parlor tricks” of NLP and hypnotic techniques and almost mechanical methodology works so well intrigues me.

So on a social scale, men stand to benefit from increased self-confidence and social skills and women stand to benefit from having more confident, tuned in men approaching them. On a personal level, I find the concepts interesting and the people cool. Everybody wins.

Does that answer the question?